Just yesterday I finished another powerful skype session with a woman who was excited about returning to a state of blissful balance within herself, by being encouraged to own her own desire. I gave her some fun suggestions and freely shared some info from my own explorations about how I stay connected to my desire, without losing myself in emotionality or losing myself in the man – you know, the kind of losing yourself that ends up shutting down your desire altogether.
Last time it was ‘Fifty Shades of Grey‘ that called attention to female sexuality and now it’s a new book by Daniel Bergner, called ‘What Do Women Want?: Adventures in the Science of Female Desire’. He states that women’s sexual desire is just as strong and ‘ravenous’ as man’s sexual desire. It draws comparisons to sex and desire in the animal world & shines the light on the power and range of female sexuality. It certainly raises some questions for many people and has the potential of un-doing some old, outworn conditioning.
Really, it’s highlighting that a woman’s sexuality is just as potent as a man’s. The great thing about this is it gives a sense of permission for a woman to claim her own desire. Yes! Fantastic!
We are well past the Victorian era perception of women as the always passive ones, who begrudgingly respond to a man’s desire, as though she doesn’t experience sexual desire within herself. And now there is a growing social awareness of how women are NOT necessarily innately monogamous, while men are the ones who want to spread their seed far and wide. Desire itself does not discriminate and can be very turned on, in either gender.
Rather than this painting a picture that women are now free to be like men, instead it can highlight the range of what female sexuality is capable of experiencing. Because there is a lot more to it than approaching men and initiating sex, although that can be a fun part too.
The most liberating thing about this for women is the dawning social perception that women are just as free to feel sexual as men are – because lets face it, that’s usually been a psychological understanding attached to the male gender. Not that you need permission from a book to claim your own desire, however when the cultural attitude supports you feeling free in your sexuality, it can really help.
Tigress Yoga is clearly a practice for women that does cultivate female desire and gives women a sense of freedom and permission to be authentic to themselves. It also helps a woman to open her heart, let go of old emotions and feel connected to her wholeness within.
“‘I just had two funny conversations,’ Bergner, author of ‘What Do Women Want?’ told Salon.com.
‘One with a male writer, a friend of mine, who said that reading the book had inspired deep concern, and another from an editor who said that it had scared the bejesus out of him. [Laughter] I laugh, but I think that maybe it should, and I hope that it at least lets us look past the blinders that we’ve had on.'”
So what all this highlights is a common question among our community, of whether men are intimidated by women who practice Tigress Yoga?
If you are a man reading this article, please feel free to comment. Whether or not you partnered with a woman who does Tigress Yoga, your contribution is welcome. Does the thought of a woman who is cultivating her sensual and sexual vitality scare you? If no, why not? And if yes, why?
eg. if a woman is able to experience multiple orgasmicness without you, how does that make you feel?
if her sexual desire happens to be stronger than yours how does that make you feel?
and does it inspire anything in you?
are we scary?
Dévashi Shakti xx