In the early days of sharing Tigress Yoga™ publicly, I was totally amazed at how quickly and easily women were having obvious experiences of powerful, beautiful Shakti flowing through their bodies. Previously I had found that only after 1:1 tantric bodywork sessions (several for most people) would a woman find that level of energetic opening through her body. So to see what I always knew was possible happening for some women, right before my eyes within in a few Tigress Yoga classes, it moved me to such tears of joy & inspired me to continue sharing Tigress Yoga with the world.
So dear tigress women, some of you will know this already however it is still important to say. As someone who has been immersed both personally and professionally for many years in this field, I have been present to the ever-emerging amount of male sacred sexuality facilitators. Because of how much women trust me, I constantly hear stories from those who have gone to tantric healers, sacred sexuality facilitators & even hypnotherapists for healing but come away with more damage & confusion than they had in the first place. YES we can say in every experience there is something to be learnt from and this is true………. but how about sexuality facilitators operating from a place of integrity and real respect for the deep feminine heart – we could also learn from that too! It is so important for a woman to have a safe and supportive environment to meet her orgasmic nature in – free of the all too common ambiguous, sleazy or abusive dynamics that frequently occur in sacred sexuality type circles.
Of course there are some beautiful male teachers out there, however I am referring here to the specific situation of a man in a position of authority who has gained a woman’s trust but then coerces her into doing something she doesn’t really want to do….. or need to do in order to have the awakening she’s looking for. If two consenting adults wish to have sex that’s fantastic, however it’s just not appropriate within the context of a therapeutic session if it wasn’t advertised to be about having sex. There is a strong element of parent and child dynamic going on in the therapeutic environment, especially within the psyche of the client. If the two adults wish to connect intimately outside of the healing session environment, that’s their business (and awareness of time and space to dissolve the therapeutic dynamic first is highly recommended). The main point I’m making here is this:
It is absolutely not necessary for a woman to have sex with her teacher/guide
to awaken her sexual energy channels.
Beautiful sisters, your womb is so sacred and it is YOURS. It is so deeply connected to your heart, whether that is consciously understood or not. You never need to give yourself away or leave a part of yourself behind to have what you want.
I can appreciate ALL the different expressions on our paths to understanding and experiencing sexual energy and I personally believe it is a mistake to condemn anyone in their explorations to know themselves. However discernment is different to judgement. It seems quite common in new age thought to have no distinction between judgement and discernment, which is one of the reasons unacceptable behaviour continues to be so rampant.
With the knowledge gained in the tantric arts, one would think those teachers would have a good grasp on how female sexual energy works – that the way to open a woman’s true sexual energy IS through her heart. It doesn’t need to be about “falling in love”; it can also be about devotion. Sadly, even among the male sexuality teachers, they are often approaching female students in a way that doesn’t support or encourage her true opening. I’ve seen this so many times myself over the years and constantly have women sharing stories with me… so many stories that I could easily fill a book! My understanding is that they are often replicating the behaviour of how THEIR teachers operate, without questioning it. I’ve also noted that it tends to happen when men are not feeling sexually fulfilled in their real life so they go unconsciously looking for that fulfilment via female clients. I’m not sure it’s a coincidence that the most aligned and truly loving men I know are those who have been initiated into real understanding of and devotion to the Feminine through committed relationship.
I am curious to know who the new generation, the new evolution of male sexuality teachers are.
This is a call to all the men in the sacred sexuality arena to say it’s time to lift your game: a woman does NOT need to have sex with you to awaken her sexual energy channels. Polarity energy can be effectively ignited via specific bodywork with clear professional boundaries as a teacher. Women are ready for the next level. Imagine having enormous respect, admiration and being on the receiving end of devotional love from many awake women who REALLY trust you – because in THAT quality of serving as a true guide, you will be further expanded spiritually and held in the hearts of women who genuinely dance with Shakti – surely that is more desirable than the short term satisfaction of sexual gratification followed by an ambiguous reputation and no inspiration from wise awake women to hold, nurture and help birth you into the man you were truly born to be. Guide a woman in feeling the love of who she already is in her heart instead of using your knowledge to trick, manipulate, scare or seduce her into having sex with you. Though to guide a woman in surrendering to that God frequency, it implies that you have a strong connection to Source that you have consciously established through your own inner work.
In saying all of that, women could also get to know themselves more by doing their inner work of resting deeper in their own self love. Maybe you can inspire these men to lift their game by not saying yes when you really mean no, by doing the work of truly loving the woman you are and getting to know the essence of your own energy so much that you totally get it: you already have what you are looking for. Then there’s nothing left to do but nurture that incredible source of feminine power, pleasure, radiance and amazingness inside of you. And then you are free to share it with those you really want to.
There is no actual need to leave a part of yourself behind my sisters (namely your true heart feelings). And if you have been in a situation where you regret giving yourself sexually to some kind of practitioner who suggested you needed to for your sexual awakening process; then get honest about your own unconscious motivations, learn from that experience and engage the real work of loving who you are. The most effective guidance system and the most effective self healing tool is this: go so deep in loving ALL of who you are that it becomes extremely obvious by contrast when a man is not loving you or truly serving you.
And this brings us back to one of the many reasons Tigress Yoga exists – it’s a safe haven for a woman to heal, grow, awaken her feminine body, learn how to truly nurture herself, reveal her vulnerability, love herself on all levels, find ecstatic alignment with her female nature (good idea when in a female body!), come into her whole, integrated personal power and shine in the woman of wisdom, love & pleasure she was born to be.